Happy Father's Day to all grandfathers and fathers. How lucky children are to have warm, caring men in their lives. Uncles, too can play an important role. I have friends who had abusive fathers and these men changed their daughters' lives. Many years of psychiatric help has helped, but the pain is always there. How any man can be abusive to a child is beyond my understanding. I remember one father telling me that you never wanted to get near his father's big hands. The man was bright and successful, but the problem with his father and teenage mother made a tremendous difference in his life. It was hard for him to trust or get close to people.
If a mother is widowed or decides to be a single mother, I hope she will find male friends to help fill the role a father should play. A male role model is important. My son's father was a good provider, but his great love of orthopedic surgery and his adoring patients meant he gave both of these more time than his children. I suspect that is one reason my son is such a great father.
Fathers do need time for themselves and also time for their partners or wives. A weekly date is something I have always stressed to keep a relationship going. Having a good buddy to talk to is important and for new fathers, a fathers' support group can be very valuable. Fathers are often much more relaxed with a new baby than the mothers. They can be great about helping out and take pride in doing so. I've seen some wonderful fathers and know what a difference they have made in their children's lives.
Thanks for this informative information. Abusive fathers hope they do not exist at this era and time. Absent fathers is a major concern to every child. In the evening children love to play with their fathers at the sitting room. more often children love their fathers than moms because most of the time the moms are harsh and watching over them. Dads be available for your little ones
Posted by: Kefa | 06/19/2019 at 11:02 PM